Who's in Your Room?

The Question That Will Change Your Life

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The Authors

Stewart Emery

Stewart Emery co-authored the international bestseller Success Built to Last. He has a lifetime of experience as an entrepreneur, executive coach and leader, and is considered a thought leader of the Human Potential Movement. Stewart has served as Visiting Professor at the John F. Kennedy University School of Management and led programs at the Stanford Business School.

Ivan Misner, Ph.D.

Dr. Ivan Misner is the Founder and Chief Visionary Officer of BNI (Business Network International), the world’s largest business networking organization. Founded in 1985, the organization now has more than 10,000 of chapters throughout every populated continent of the world. Each year, BNI chapters pass millions of referrals generating billions of dollars’ worth of business for the members.

Doug Hardy

Doug Hardy has written about how people can live a more effective and meaningful life in their careers, organizations, families, and communities. He is also a former media executive who creates thought leadership programs for business and university clients, incorporating editorial, marketing, Internet and social media content development. He led publishing at The New York Times, Monster.com, Random House, AT&T.


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"This is an amazing book for anyone who wants to see where they are and where they want to be. Whether you are in the beginning of your career or winding down you need to asses your room. I thoroughly recommend it!"



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Imagine that you live your entire life in one room.

Every person you have ever interacted with is inside this room, which is infinitely large and accessible only through a one-way door that reads “Entrance Only.” Whoever comes through the door, and whatever they bring with them, cannot leave—ever. 

Anyone you let in your room will be there for the rest of your life.

Take a moment to envision yourself in your room among all the individuals who share this space with you—your family, friends, colleagues, neighbors, postman, dogwalker, elementary school teachers, those you follow on social media…

The quality of your life depends upon who’s in your room.

Are you happy with the people you’re surrounded by?

Neurologists report that memories and emotions continue to influence you, for better or worse, long after their external cause has disappeared. Though you can’t undo the past, you can curate your room to build a better future.


Who's In Your Room?

Every person you have ever interacted with is inside this room, which is infinitely large and accessible only through a one-way door that reads “Entrance Only.” Whoever comes through the door, and whatever they bring with them, cannot leave—ever. 

By reading Who’s in Your Room?, you’ll discover how to…

RAVE Reviews


Jack Canfield

Who’s in Your Room? is one of the most powerful personal-development books you will ever read. It has changed my life, and it will change yours.


Why spend time putting up with people that don’t make you feel good, don’t have the same values, or are holding you back, even unintentionally. Sometimes you just know something doesn’t feel right when you are around someone. Little did I realize I could control that.

Who’s In Your Room explains why, and more importantly how you can change your mindset, and help others change their mindsets when they are around you to ensure you always have the right people in your room and more importantly, in your life.

Creating your best life ever can be had with this book. I can’t recommend it enough.


““We all know the importance of clearing cutter from our home, office, closets, garage, etc. to create more ease, flow and success in our lives… but what you probably don’t know is that it’s critical to clear another kind of clutter: People.

We need to clear out the emotionally draining, toxic, judgmental, crazy making, and/or even boring, uninspiring people from our lives.

Who’s In Your Room is a simple life-changing yet powerful book that explains how and why who you allow into your “room” impacts the quality of the rest of your life. I consider this a must read for everyone focused on living a long, healthy and happy life.”


“If you’re around a lot of people and need to manage both your time and the people you associate w/ on any level, personal or professional, READ THIS BOOK. What are your values and does everyone in your network share those values. I read it in about 2 1/2 hrs and plan on going back and setting up my strategy.”


“I love this book so much. It really provokes thought about who you let into your life and what values dictate those choices. I have read many books over the years but seldom has one impacted me so profoundly. This book will change your life and will help you carefully choose those that are worth of entry into your room.”


“This book was great and reminding me how to deal with people in my room that are causing drama. I don’t have to walk away from them completely. Gently giving them less time and attention and focusing on the people I really need and want in my room.”


“This is a quick read but really makes a lot of sense using the Room as a metaphor who who we let in our life and their lifetime influence and effect they can have on us, good or otherwise”


“This concept is powerful and the book provides concrete steps to take to get control of the people and situations in your life to build your life around what you value most. I found it so valuable I’m gifting to others to help them.”


“Many people would say they are careful about who they let in there room but in my experience for most luck is what keeps the room clean. This book provides a great tool to systematically monitor your room.”


“Such an easy read! Usually, I’m a slow reader, but I finished this quickly because I liked it so much. We are unavoidably influenced by the people in our lives and this book will actually help you make choices around that. It has simple exercises leading you to what YOU can control that will truly make your life better. Small changes, BIG reward. Invest in yourself by reading it, and you’ll be very glad you did!”


“I absolutely LOVE this book! I have read it several times and each time I am able to reflect on past and present relationships. I am a BNI Business Network International member for over 8 years now. As a Director Consultant and starting new chapters in my region this is one of the very first concepts I address with my Pre-Core, Who’s in your room, better yet who do you want in your room???? It gives them the opportunity to dig deep into who they want to invite and build relationships for years to come in their chapters!

Who do you surround yourself with: engines or anchors? This is an important question for everyone. It’s particularly important if you are trying to build a powerful personal network of people around you. This book will guide you through this questions with ease.”

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Learn to Model Success from the Best

In this live webinar, you will learn how to take your theoretical knowledge and turn it into an applicable system that is guaranteed to work if you do. Your teachers will walk you through the Clarity Process, Qualification Framework and the Dialogue Blueprint to make sure you don’t miss any steps or forget something. When you experience the complete Who’s In Your Room System, you emerge equipped with the skills, habits and processes to create success in every area of life. You will soon hold the power to choose, and choose wisely.

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You are the architect of your emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical room.

It’s time to build a room that makes you come alive—purchase your copy of Who’s in Your Room? today!



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